This week in my METRO Magazine column, I write about drawing lines in the social sand or "How To Deflect a Friend Request From Your Prying Coworker." In addition to being an exercise to reflect on how I come to my decisons of who to add where, it became an audit system. In the spirit of being a good model of my advice, I unfollowed nearly 500 people on Twitter whose posts had no value to me and have been subtracting people from Facebook that I added before my "personal friends" only rule went into effect (so far, around 25 people). It's refreshing. Less to skip over, and I'm seeing more posts I want to. I give you permission to do the same!
Reader Lucie Amundsen asked me last week how I deal with the people who post those '99% of you won't repost this' chain-mail type messages on Facebook. Usually, I scroll right by. It's the strangest phenomenon, I think. If you're passionate about a subject, just post a personal message about it. Try to avoid ever duplicating a post, if possible. It's like paging through the paper to find they've inserted the same article five times. At least Facebook groups duplicate posts now and lists the names of friends who posted it, which is helpful. If you have someone who posts these types of things frequently, I say unsubscribe. It's a very good tool to keep your news feed full of only what you wish to read. People who post these things: STOP. Please? We want to read your words.
On adding coworkers: A reader, who chooses to remain anonymous, told me about her system for new coworkers: if they make her laugh five times after having lunch with them and enjoying their company, she'll consider adding them. I like it! Why not? Another noted that adding coworkers on social networks sure makes it hard to gripe anonymously about them. While I don't have coworkers in the traditional sense, I can bet the pressure to add could be tricky. It should be noted that griping online is rarely, maybe never, encouraged. Answer the questions I lay out in the column to help you determine who to add, and when.
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